When death occurs in a family, the family members grieve differently and we may miss out on the quiet ones or those who seem strong. In a couple situation, sometimes the man is forgotten yet he is hurting too. We may also miss out on the children and justify that they are too young to understand. We also forget close relatives like in our case grand parents, aunts/uncles or friends who loved the child as their own.
As the community providing support to the bereaved family, let us look out for each family member and close friend where possible. Pull them aside, chat and ask how they are doing. Talk to the children, allow them to be present when meetings are happening they are stakeholders too. Break down the loss to their level, as basic but as clear as possible. Allow them to cry or express their disappointment.
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