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Memories and Triggers

 There is no destination, loss is a journey. We learn to cope without our loved ones. We moan the past, present and future. We wish we had more time, to hug, to love and to say the right things. We wish we cherished the precious moments together. We moan the present, doing life together, facing victories, challenges and celebrating milestones. We miss the birthdays, the anniversaries that we would have celebrated. We moan the future, the birthdays, the graduations, the milestones, the weddings and life together.


Be gentle on yourself, when you drive past a, place that bears memories, or listen to a song that reminds you of your loved, it's okay to miss them. To date, there are songs I can't stand , I sang them to Jaden and I am gentle on myself. I walk away or switch to another channel. Be aware of what triggers set you onto an emotional roller coaster. Again know, this was your loved one, you have or heard memories and dreams and it is okay to miss and grief them.


For the community of support, may wisdom and discernment be yours. If your friend has recently lost a parent, please be sensitive to the best that you can and don't go and on about your parent(tricky, I know but you can be sensitive), maybe talk abiur general things or allow bereaved to ask you about your parent . Ask how you can support them (if at all) on days like birthdays, anniversaries and memorials. We are all different and handle these differently. 

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