Days after the burial are difficult to face. The community of support return to their normal routines . People return to work, ceremonies like baby showers, birthdays, weddings and get togethers continue, after all that's how life is. However, as these go on the bereaved is feeling lost and stuck. Questions like how can people be smiling and be happy while am hollow and lost? Why isn't my loved one here to celebrate a milestone with me? Many events or lack of them trigger emotions. Facing a day seems like facing a giant.
For the bereaved, be gentle on yourself. You can say no to events or gatherings that overwhelm you. It is easy to pity party and resent your family and friends for moving on. Please know that is life and when your world stops, it's not their fault. They will support when they can or ask for support and sensitized them on what hurts or where you are at. Guard your heart.
For the community of support, be patient with the bereaved. Do not isolate them from occasions. Invite them and allow them to make a decision. If they attend and get overwhelmed, allow them to be, they are trying to find a new dance. If they refuse, please do not be offended, allow them, keep trying one day they might be ready.
Let's be sensitive.
Comments