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Introducing -  A PEEK INTO A GRIEVING HEART The TEARS Foundation, Kenya, has been trying to break the silence associated with child loss grief  among our communities  (pregnancy loss, stillbirth & infants/children death). There is a silent rule that these are not losses worthy grieving or talking about: when you do, you should “move with speed” and “move on” as if nothing happened. We know this silence coupled with societal attitudes has pushed families to dark pits. Siblings included. There is nothing as harmful as unacknowledged loss-unsupported/disenfranchised grief. Let us have this conversation. We have many issues eating into the fabric of our society, this is one of them - unacknowledged loss-unsupported/disenfranchised grief. We now have a forum, thought through since December 2019. It is time to bring it from the back burners. Invited speakers will help us  Peek Into A Grieving Heart after a child dies. Bring all your families and friends to this virtual forum.

This afternoon, I had a delivery in Lang'ata and purposed to pass by Jaden's grave. It had been a long while since I visited, but as I walked towards the grave, I was met with blooming yellow flowers that really warmed my heart. I had come with an agenda, I wanted to change the flowers around the grave and thankfully had Gitua who cleans and ensures the place is presentable give me a tour around the cemetery to showcase his work. I was amused within me, the things we do as a result of loss are strange yet have become normal to us.  After about an hour, I had picked a few yellow flowers put them carefully on the back seat and drove home in comoftable silence. No tears, no sad emotions just gratitude but it has been almost 8 years this November 2020.