My Life

 

Counselling is not for the weak or the very emotional people. Each of us needs counselling to unpack what lies within us, both good and not so good experiences. Sometimes, we need some help to think through a decision or to figure things out.  Counselling is for children. adolescents, individuals and couples. It can be conducted one on one, in a group ,it can be physical or online.

 I like to explain the journey of loss as learning to walk with a limp. This evening, I have seen it described as learning to dance with the limp. It's beautifully explained by Bereaved Parents of the USA. 

"Only in the dark can you see the stars" Martin Luther. Look for the treasures you can find even in the hard seasons of life. Is it the resilience? Is it the friendships? Is it the discovered gifts/talents? What do you learn about yourself or the other person? My treasure in the dark after the loss of our child was growth in my spiritual life and journeying with individuals going through hard seasons. Not wasting my pain.   When we look long enough, we can find something good, maybe not in the thick of things but in retrospect we do find the treasures.  

We tell people to 'get over it' but what does that really mean or look like? Sometimes , we do not understand what the are going through and we say these hurtful words. Let us strive to help them get through it, no quick fixes for our own comfort. Walk beside them (if you can) or get someone who can walk with them.

 Hi, Which season of life are you in? What is within your control?  What are you doing to navigate the season? Remember that seasons don't last forever. Hang in there.

 A few months ago we were watching PUP Academy and one of the pups told another 'you don't need to help me because you HAVE TO but because YOU WANT TO'. There is a difference in attitude don't you think? Remember the things you have done because of the dogmas of 'I should', 'I must', 'I have to' and the things you have done because you willing did because 'you wanted to'. There must be a great difference.  Christmas is round the corner and so many decisions need to be made. Sometimes unfortunately, festive seasons can be stressful. We  allow them to be so because we do things we think we have to but really don't want to.You may want to stay home and just be but feel you have to travel...  Hope this year 2020, we can have a stress free Christmas, let us strive to do what we can because we want to and not because we have to.