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What Happened?


When you receive the news of death,the first question is what happened? We seek understanding of events that led to the death?

Our minds cannot take gaps and need clear information where possible to help take in the news.If the communication is not clear or confusing, then our minds make up stories on what we think/ imagine may have happened.This is not ill intended ,it is just a way to help us cope with the devastating loss.

To avoid speculation and misunderstandings ( where possible) ,it is important to explain what happened ( of course age appropriately). However,as humans ,we are different and process issues differently.

As always, whether it is clear or not on what may have happened,let us be kind and show compassion.Remember,even the person or people explaining 'what happened' are equally grieving,in shock and trying to understand.

Kindness and compassion always.


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