My Life

We tell people to 'get over it' but what does that really mean or look like? Sometimes , we do not understand what the are going through and we say these hurtful words. Let us strive to help them get through it, no quick fixes for our own comfort. Walk beside them (if you can) or get someone who can walk with them.

 Hi, Which season of life are you in? What is within your control?  What are you doing to navigate the season? Remember that seasons don't last forever. Hang in there.

 A few months ago we were watching PUP Academy and one of the pups told another 'you don't need to help me because you HAVE TO but because YOU WANT TO'. There is a difference in attitude don't you think? Remember the things you have done because of the dogmas of 'I should', 'I must', 'I have to' and the things you have done because you willing did because 'you wanted to'. There must be a great difference.  Christmas is round the corner and so many decisions need to be made. Sometimes unfortunately, festive seasons can be stressful. We  allow them to be so because we do things we think we have to but really don't want to.You may want to stay home and just be but feel you have to travel...  Hope this year 2020, we can have a stress free Christmas, let us strive to do what we can because we want to and not because we have to.

 As parents/guardians, we strive to give our children a good and stable life. Unfortunately, no matter what we do, we can not shield them from the storms of life but we can provide them with a tool that can carry them through life . Introducing your children to God's Word and salvation, I believe is the greatest gift you can offer  them. Read an extract from 8 Positive Attitudes by Robert Schuller.

 Grace of Lament A friend has shared this sermon on grace of lament( https://www.capitolhillbaptist.org/sermon/the-grace-of-lament/#.XXZWMZyeLCg.whatsapp ). It is insightful, helpful and freeing. Thanks friend (you know yourself). Psalms 77:1‭-‬9 NIV I cried out to God for help; I cried out to God to hear me.  When I was in distress, I sought the Lord; at night I stretched out untiring hands, and I would not be comforted.  I remembered you, God, and I groaned; I meditated, and my spirit grew faint.  You kept my eyes from closing; I was too troubled to speak.  I thought about the former days, the years of long ago;  I remembered my songs in the night. My heart meditated and my spirit asked:  “Will the Lord reject forever? Will he never show his favor again?  Has his unfailing love vanished forever? Has his promise failed for all time?  Has God forgotten to be merciful? Has he in anger withheld his compassion?”

As we go through grief or have our loved ones go through seasons of loss, we can find comfort that there is time for everything under the sun. A Time for Everything 1For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven. 2A time to be born and a time to die. A time to plant and a time to harvest. 3A time to kill and a time to heal. A time to tear down and a time to build up. 4A time to cry and a time to laugh. A time to grieve and a time to dance. 5A time to scatter stones and a time to gather stones. A time to embrace and a time to turn away. 6A time to search and a time to quit searching. A time to keep and a time to throw away. 7A time to tear and a time to mend. A time to be quiet and a time to speak. 8A time to love and a time to hate. A time for war and a time for peace. Look keenly at the above and therein are seasons of life, some great others not so great. As you moan, allow yourself to be in that season. t is okay not to be okay. Another season will come, ...

Words we can learn to use I care about you. He/she will be dearly missed. You are important to me. My condolences. I hope you find some peace today. Be kind to yourself. I'm here for you. I wish I could take your pain away. Let me know if there's anything I can do for you. I am saddened to hear about (deceased's name) passing. I am so sorry that you are going through this. I can't imagine what you're feeling, but I am totally here for you. Know that I will be here to support you through all of this. Nothing I say can change what happened, but I am here for you and your family during this time. My heart hurts knowing that (deceased's name) has passed away. I've lost a loved one before and can imagine what you may be feeling. Know that it's okay to feel however you want to feel during this time and I will be here for you. May the memories of (deceased's name) bring you peace Source: https://dying.lovetoknow.com/Words_to_Comfort_Someone_Grieving