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I DO Over the Holidays

I am married to a great guy and I love him to bits. We have been married now for 3 years 3months and am glad I have my beloved. As you know when two people get married to become one seems quite easy but when the rubber hits the road its tough and with time you learn the process of becoming one.

For both our families since we were young , Christmas was a great time for the extended families to travel upcountry and visit our grandparents and see our relatives. Mostly we traveled on 24th December and spent Christmas day together and people would part ways from the 26th December. For our extended family Christmas eve was full of songs and dancing to the wee mornings of Christmas day, then on the day the men would slaughter a goat while the ladies cooked and later shared the meal together.


Both our families had not had the Christmas get togethers for a  few years and had planned to meet this past Christmas 2010 . I found myself 'homesick' to some extent. My beloved's extended family was meeting in Njoro on 25th December while the rest were meeting in Nairobi. The plan was to travel to Njoro on Christmas day and be back for a function with our relatives in Nairobi later in the evening. I found myself quite anxious as we traveled to Njoro because this was the first time we were spending Christmas with the larger family and some relatives I had not met. Of course my sister Emma and her family were in attendance briefly but left at some point and I almost requested to tag along. Don't get me wrong, my beloved's family is great but the fact that we have not had the opportunity to interact much made me anxious(does anyone feel me on this). On the other hand Samara had a blast,,she really loved being free and enjoyed herself and my beloved was also excited to meet up and catch up which was great.

Later that evening we traveled to Nairobi to join our relatives in Nairobi and once we got there, I again felt out of place, guess it was because people had been there overnight ,whole day and had bonded. Trying to catch up with people who were exhausted was a bit hard but hey we were glad we had got the opportunity to see them all over Christmas.

As we went home I told my beloved those are the realities of saying" I DO". Your people shall be my people ... where now that you are one, there are hard decisions to be made but we thanked God for a car and chance we had to spend time with both families. Does anybody feel me on this? Am curious to hear from you.

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Ems Makuthi said…
I do fell you girl. Those words are deep but you never get to know the real meaning until you start living them. Its life and its reality.... I guess we can only take it a step at a time and with grace. I am much better today than I was 5years a go....so hang on girlie...

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