My Life

A new routine that am loving and appreciating is when our daughter comes to my bed, lies besides me and asks questions and am able to share my own childhood experiences on the same or she would read to me a story she likes. No w, our soon to be 6year old is a hugger and loves cuddles before going to bed. So it's been great bonding before bed despite being locked in together all day. Yesterday, I had both of them with me,  each on my side and I prayed over them as they snoozed away. I found myself thinking about their personalities, the differences and similarities and I wondered how  Jaden would be? Would he be calm like his sister or energetic like his brother? Who he have been strong willed as they are? What would he have loved to do before sleeping? Would he have appreciated some 'me time' with mummy, a cuddle or tickle from mummy? I lingered there for a short while, said a prayer, one of thanksgiving for the three babies, I have been blessed with. You see desp...

Yesterday, I mentioned that one can have the blaming stance and this could be characterized by anger. Many are uncomfortable with anger, but we shouldn't because anger shows there is something more going on. However, what we do with the anger is what we should watch out for. Gottman, illustrates that anger is the tip of the iceberg, underneath are emotions/feelings of fear, rejection, anxiety, embarrassment and much more. So the next time you are angry, even in this uncertain times, ask yourself what is really going in within you then deal with the underlying feelings. Sylvia Wambui

Change is inevitable that is what we are told. The past few weeks, we have gone through change in so many things like the way we relate to each other, freedom of movement daytime and curfews   in the night ,we all have learned to keep time, 06:59:59 needs to find you home. Transactions are now cashless, meetings,fellowships and school are now virtual, strange times indeed. I am convinced that with this change , our lives will never be the same again. Diane Heller says that all humans are born with an amazing capacity to survive, heal and thrive. That is great encouragement. However, the past few weeks, I have wondered what it is like for those families that are grieving. With the government guidelines on funerals like conduct funerals in the shortest time, social distancing, limiting number of people who can attend the funeral ,I wonder how these families are coping with these changes? How does the grieving family chose who makes it to the list of attendance? I can’t imagine ...

Watching Citizen News, am glad that people are aware that the current season poses stress to individuals and families. Stress about Covid-19,jobs,finances and the future poses a risk to relationships in the home. In other countries that have experienced lock downs, there has been a rise in domestic violence and divorce.This is alarming but because of the stress and sharing the same space a long time, it's not a surprise. You may not have a relationship challenge but anxiety or need to think through your new normal/routines, we as counsellors are here. Kindly reach out, allow us to support you and journey through this together. Inbox me or text me and we can schedule a time to talk. Sylvia

This week in our virtual Tandaza Group(Bible Study), we focused on the 2Kings 7:3-20 the story of the 4 lerpers who were at the entrance of the city gate(outcasts/rejects of course). Yet, the Lord used their courage or desperation(v. 4 if we stay here we die, if we go to the enemy's camp, they either spare us or kill us) to save a kingdom. Were they aware that God was using them for something greater? Each step the four lerpers took, sounded like chariots and horses and a great army in the enemy's camp. I am sure the lerpers were just trying to survive not knowing that their act of courage or desperation was instilling fear in the enemy's camp and saving a starving kingdom. My lesson among many is that each of us matters. We are not insignificant. That prayer you whisper, that act of kindness, that job you do that makes you feel unappreciated or of 'low standing' in society, that tea you offer the guards, that smile or call matters. Like a video shared yesterday...

This is loss and grief. Tomorrow is Friday and will mark end of Week 3 staying at home. Initially, we may have been excited that we don't have to be stuck in traffic or save a few coins while we are indoors,but now week 1 has become week 2 and now week 3. We are now getting bored, tired, restless, missing our normal lives and can give anything to go back to our routines but friends we shall never be the same after this, we may have to find a new normal. What we may be experiencing is loss and grief and it is normal. Yes, it is normal. You see when loss occurs, whether of a loved one, a job, a relationship or item you loved, we go through various (e) motions. We go through denial,numbness, bargaining, anger, sadness, and 'acceptance'. Can you identify with any of the emotions? I sure can. Please don't be deceived that these emotions flow systematically. Today you may feel that you have the strength to face the day after a trigger like watching a press briefing, o...