When you receive the news of death,the first question is what happened? We seek understanding of events that led to the death? Our minds cannot take gaps and need clear information where possible to help take in the news.If the communication is not clear or confusing, then our minds make up stories on what we think/ imagine may have happened.This is not ill intended ,it is just a way to help us cope with the devastating loss. To avoid speculation and misunderstandings ( where possible) ,it is important to explain what happened ( of course age appropriately). However,as humans ,we are different and process issues differently. As always, whether it is clear or not on what may have happened,let us be kind and show compassion.Remember,even the person or people explaining 'what happened' are equally grieving,in shock and trying to understand. Kindness and compassion always.
When death happens,we try and make sense of it by asking :what,where when,how,who and why? With everyone trying to make sense of the news,we all interpret it in different ways.Some become numb,some blame others or themselves,some are angry at everyone including the person who has died. Death is always shocking yet it's bound to happen.It leaves us with more questions than answers.Maybe that's why it's a mystery and we are never ready for it and its effects. At times death feels so unfair and life seems meaningless. In our trying to find answers or to make sense of the death,let us remember people are grieving and hurting.Our words and our actions can harm more than comfort. Let us be kind and show compassion. Sylvia Grief Educator