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Dealing With Grief

 I was reading Marriage Missions on dealing with grief and came by some quotes by Martha Whitmore Hickman from a book she has written. You can read more from the link attached http://www.marriagemissions.com/a-new-stage-when-your-spouse-dies/. You may not have lost a spouse but you may have lost a loved one and thought this would give some encouragement. I picked out a few quotes.

1. “One of the things so astonishing and costly losing a loved one is that, while the sun continues to rise and set, newspapers continue to be delivered, traffic lights still change from red to green and back again, our whole life is turned around, turned upside down. Is it any wonder we feel disoriented and confused? Yet the people we pass on the street are going about their business as though no one’s world has been shaken to the core, as though earth has not opened and swallowed us up, dropped us into a world of insecurity and change.

“It is, as Emily Dickinson says, ‘a new road’ —for us as surely as for the one we have lost. It will take us time to learn to walk that road. Time, and a lot of help, so we don’t stumble and fall irretrievably. Those who have had their own experiences of loss will probably be our most helpful guides—knowing when to say the right word, when to be silent and walk beside us, when to reach out and take our hand. In time, we’ll be helpers for others.”

2. “May I hold my grief lightly in my hand so it can lift away from me. My connection to the one I’ve lost is inviolate; it cannot be broken.”

3.  “I will not further burden myself by trying to fit some image of a ‘model griever.’ The strength I have is the strength to be myself.”

4.  “If well-meaning people forget the promises they’ve made to you in the funeral home, try to remember they cannot be all we want them to be —just as we can’t be all they need us to be.”

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