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Comforting Jaden's Sibling

We felt so loved and comforted through the many calls and friends and family who came to visit. However we noted that for baby gal and it not being deliberate , no one really was comforting her..I guess we assumed she doesn't understand or we did not know how to deal with her grief. But truth be told , Samara knew and loved her brother so much. I was so scared of her asking about him because I didn't have an answer..but my beloved sat her down and explained to her that her brother went to be with the Lord in heaven. Of course she asked the whys and where  but she seemed to understand that he had left us.

On the day of the funeral again he explained to her that we were going to say good bye to Jaden and she asked me for the first time and I said the same thing. It was bold  of Alex to sit her down and explain to her such a difficult thing, yet with such wisdom he used the basic words and she seemed content. Thanks a million hun, you are 1 in a million. From that day she asks for Jaden daily, sometimes in the morning on her way to school because she was used to leaving mummy and her brother at home,or she knew we were in hospital with him...but God has really and is also working in her heart, he will heal her. I bless God for Alex and the role he has taken as the head of the home.

My sister Emma and her family whom Samara loves so dearly and has spent so much time with, visited and stayed for 2 nights . This was so exciting for baby gal, an opportunity to show off her room and toys and actually host her cousins in her bedroom. She loved every moment of it. As much as we love having our friends over, we felt Samara also  needs and loves having her peers around. Rosemary's  soon to be 2 year old son also joined the gang on Saturday afternoon and I believe Samara is much better after that than she was. So, even when we do not know how to explain death and understand grief for 2 year olds, it is important to remember that just like how we feel the warmth from our visitors, they too feel loved when their agemates visit. So our home is open to all with kids, when you visit please remember we do not mind having the babies tagging along as you also minister to baby gal.

Let me do some reading on Heaven Is For Real...blessings to you and thank you for dropping by.

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waitingarms said…
I am so glad that Samara was able to have time with her peers. Is there a possibility for her to see a grief counselor who has experience dealing with children?

Continuing to pray for your family.

20 November 2012 at 10:49
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