Practical Things To Do

Practical Things Community of Support Can Do

On Day of Burial

1.Ensure bereaved have a meal /breakfast before leaving home.

2.Carry water, energy giving drink/glucose/snack, box of tissues /handkerchiefs

3.Allow the bereaved be present during the ceremony if possible. Some people whisk the bereaved away when they are overcome by grief. Try calm them down, get a chair but allow them to be present.

4. Try to be comfortable with tears and expression of emotions. If you are uncomfortable subconsciously you try and silence the bereaved. If you comfortable with emotions, you can give the bereaved time to cry and try calm them with wisdom.

5.If there are children, assign an adult to take care of their needs during the burial but allow them to be as present as possible and with the family.

6. After the burial, do not be in a rush to move the family away from burial site. Be patient with them.

7. Please do not leave immediately after the ceremony of you able to. Give the family some warmth with your presence.

8.Ensure that the family have some basic amenities and food to get by for a few days

9.Diarise a date and put reminder on your phone to check on the family via call, text as regularly as you can. We have tendency to move on with our lives(rightfully so) and can easily forget to check in.

10.Suppprt the family through prayers, encouraging messages, songs or visit. Whichever way you can.

Thanks

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